tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7994205462075967000.post2810444439389789198..comments2023-03-25T05:41:32.948-04:00Comments on It's raining in Baltimore, baby...but everything else is the same: MomentsSJhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14174193133138897712noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7994205462075967000.post-80869845449531559522009-10-17T03:14:49.804-04:002009-10-17T03:14:49.804-04:00It will get better if you dig deep and listen and ...It will get better if you dig deep and listen and look hard. I was there. You can do it.Maggie Mayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14699674732274478502noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7994205462075967000.post-28142256947563958442009-10-12T22:39:16.241-04:002009-10-12T22:39:16.241-04:00I think Kori gave you great advice. But it's s...I think Kori gave you great advice. But it's so hard. So hard to remember that. I want you to be so happy. I do, sweet woman. I do.Ms. Moonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09776404747858099919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7994205462075967000.post-42078752170090900702009-10-12T22:15:24.481-04:002009-10-12T22:15:24.481-04:00Thanks Kori. I have read Anne Lamott but haven...Thanks Kori. I have read Anne Lamott but haven't read that phrase yet, but you're right, it is extremely helpful. It is like turning down a spoonful of poison when you're starving and it can be just as toxic to the system to consume. I don't know how on earth I'm going to get through this, but I know I will. I keep telling myself that over and over--it makes me feel weak, in a way, but I know it's something everyone experiences.<br /><br />Am keeping fingers crossed, on all counts, that something good will come out of all of this.SJhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14174193133138897712noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7994205462075967000.post-42493341757630509682009-10-12T15:41:52.690-04:002009-10-12T15:41:52.690-04:00Kori has good advice. It takes time, and you have ...Kori has good advice. It takes time, and you have to distance yourself from this person in order to ever truly move on. In the end - your self esteem and your future is way more important than a friendship if it causes you this much pain.<br /><br />Remember, someone out there is looking for you, too.TheAbsolutPINKhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16532343827581519378noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7994205462075967000.post-84767665387974373702009-10-12T10:40:20.266-04:002009-10-12T10:40:20.266-04:00I have been where you are, and all I can tell you ...I have been where you are, and all I can tell you is that it takes time and a shitload of work. Ever read anything by Anne Lamott? She has this great line about relationships and she says, "One thing I know for sure, though, is that when you are hungry, it is an act of wisdom each time you turn down a spoonful if you know that the food is poisoned." And that line got me through a lot of years-yes, years-when I just kept fidning myself in this situation that just wasn't EVER going to work out. I would repeat that to ymself all of the time, reminding myself NOT to pick up that phone, NOT to try to maintain a friendship with someone I loved so much because it hurt me every time, etc...and it to this day is one of three or four things hat actually got me through.<br /><br />And I think of you, and wish for you strength and peace-because dam it, it is SO hard to let go of somethign we want so badly, even though our rational minds tell us to just stop already. It takes some time for our hearts to catch up to where our heads already are, I think.Korihttp://seekorirant.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7994205462075967000.post-28201893975569135662009-10-11T22:52:17.878-04:002009-10-11T22:52:17.878-04:00i hear you.i hear you.adriennehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17981984403481555118noreply@blogger.com